How to Talk to a Doctor about BDSM

Where to Hit (for Consensual BDSM Play)

When practicing BDSM/kink it’s important to know how to talk to your health provider about marks and bruises. Knowing how to talk about it can save you a lot of uncomfortable explanations (and potential investigations into your domestic/sex life if your doctor suspects you are being abused). If questioned, a good tactic is to simply smile and tell your doctor that the marks were consensual.
Check out this article on talking to healthcare providers about poly and kink.
And this article about going to your doctor with bruises and marks.

For any healthcare providers out there, a great way to ask a patient about marks is simply to ask “were these marks consensual or accidental?” Asking how they got them opens up the conversation for a lot of excuses because the patient may not feel comfortable telling you the truth. If they know that you understand marks can be consensual, they will be much more likely to tell you if this is the case. If they don’t say they were consensual, you can evaluate further whether abuse is involved.

What experience do you have talking to your doctor about kink/BDSM? Share tips in the comments!

About katrinahanson

“I am one body – a body that is both strong and susceptible; a body that is healthy and fully functioning in some ways, yet vulnerable and less functional in others… [This] is simply a part of what it means to be living.” -Julia Serano Katrina became involved in medicine through working as an In-Home Caregiver for adults with developmental disabilities while obtaining her BA in Public Health at The Evergreen State College. After graduation, she worked as a Community Health Educator and obtained certification in Reiki 1 before beginning study at AIMC Berkeley. Katrina wholeheartedly believes in using nonjudgmental client-centered healthcare to facilitate healing based on the individual’s lifestyle and goals. She is passionate about queer and transgender health and wellness and incorporates this passion into her practice as well as her work with the Health Stigma & Disparity Project. Book an appointment: 510-666-8234 Katrina has appointments on Wednesday afternoons at AIMC Berkeley: 2550 Shattuck Ave, Berkeley, CA Appointments are $20 Modalities: Japanese & Chinese acupuncture, herbal medicine, contact needling, moxa, 7 star needle, cupping, guasha. Interests: Chronic pain, autoimmune conditions, mental health, healing trauma, women’s health, queer and transgender health and transition support. Scent-free treatments available (without moxa).
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