Talking to a Doctor about BDSM

Where to Hit (for Consensual BDSM Play)

When practicing BDSM/kink it’s important to know how to talk to your health provider about marks and bruises. Knowing how to talk about it can save you a lot of uncomfortable explanations (and potential investigations into your domestic/sex life if your doctor suspects you are being abused). If questioned, a good tactic is to simply smile and tell your doctor that the marks were consensual.
Check out this article on talking to healthcare providers about poly and kink.
And this article about going to your doctor with bruises and marks.

For any healthcare providers out there, a great way to ask a patient about marks is simply to ask “were these marks consensual or accidental?” Asking how they got them opens up the conversation for a lot of excuses because the patient may not feel comfortable telling you the truth. If they know that you understand marks can be consensual, they will be much more likely to tell you if this is the case. If they don’t say they were consensual, you can evaluate further whether abuse is involved.

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